I used to be ashamed to admit that I’m a stay-at-home mom. When I worked outside of the home, I had an “identity” when people asked about my profession. I was a senior assistant branch manager for a national finance company. It sounds better than what it actually was. What I do now is more important than the wheeling and dealing…so why am I ashamed that I stay home with my kids? Sure, I have my artisan flowers business but all I have time for it is maintaining some level of activity on my Facebook fan page. That is all for now. The kids are 2 1/2 years old, and 6 months old.
I’ve been asked, “What do you do all day?” This is mostly asked by people with no kids so I don’t really take offense to it. They have no context and no idea. I always just answer that I eat bon bons all day long.
Poop buddies. How do they time these things so perfectly for me?
But in case you’re wondering, here’s yesterday. I do still keep detailed notes on Claire’s activities so I know when she eats and poops (in case you’re wondering about the weird times like 1:57 She needs to meet a quota of a certain number of feeds in order to sleep through the night.
12:02 am – Finish middle of the night feeding with Claire, the almost 7 month old.
5:25 am- Claire wakes up again for a feed. Diaper change and feed. She is done by 5:56. I then lie next to her on her bed (she sleeps on a mattress on the floor. We don’t co-sleep…not that there’s anything wrong with that if you do). The hubby comes in and coos her a bit before going to work. I realize I didn’t put the load of cloth diapers in the dryer the night before and had to rewash them. I then went back to bed with her for a bit. She lies there quiet and then falls back asleep by 6:30.
7:00 am - I got out of her bed and got ready for the day. I put away some dishes and washed some.
7:30 am – Caleb (the 2 1/2 year old) had been up since 7:15 and I went to get him up. We’ve been potty training so every diaper change requires a song and dance to get him to sit on the toilet. He wanted baby cheese (Babybel cheese). I promised him cheese if he sat on the toilet. Then we brushed his teeth…which required another elaborate song and dance.
8:00 am – Breakfast for Caleb. We shared a baby cheese. Then I made us eggs and he also had some homemade cashew milk. After eating, he ran around the kitchen/living room causing a ruckus while I cleaned up and swept the floor. He wanted to feed Orange the fish. We fed Orange.
9:15 am – Claire wakes up. And of course, since Claire was getting a diaper change, Caleb wanted one too. Not because he wants one but because Claire was getting one. I took that as an opportunity and changed him first. He sat on the toilet for a bit. I don’t know how it takes 15 to 20 minutes for this all the time. Of course, he had to use “mama and papa’s bathroom.” Claire was on her tummy peeking in from the bedroom wondering what was going on. Then it was her turn. I let her sit on the toilet for a minute too. Because you know… if Claire does it, then Caleb will want to do it too. What a little punk.
9:55 am – Finally able to nurse Claire. She is done by 10:21. Claire was fed and changed so she was good for a little while. I let Caleb watch two videos of trains on YouTube and put Claire in her saucer while I cut up the 8 lb pork shoulder we got at the grocery store over the weekend.
11:00 am – Lunch. Claire was getting antsy and tired. Caleb was still eating. I told him that I’m going to put Claire down to sleep and to “sit on your bum” and not get up from his chair. I tried to rock her so she’d go to sleep quicker. She was all of a sudden not so sleepy. Took her to the living room and Caleb was not on his bum. *sigh* He had made a poo. I put the fussy baby down on her bed and tried to talk him into getting a diaper change. Claire was fussing to sleep the whole 15 to 20 minutes of changing his diaper. Seriously, he had to do everything himself, lollygags, etc. It’s fine normally but when there’s a crying baby, I feel like losing my lid. Claire did fall asleep for a few minutes in between fussing.
12:20 pm- It’s obvious Claire is distraught and needed comfort so I nurse her. Caleb dumps his giant bag of MegaBloks to play while I was doing done. She finished nursing at 12:46. We then all went into Caleb’s room to give him his nap-time routine. This includes 2 books, talk about shapes/colors, and kiss/tickle/hug 4 times. We do a negotiation. Me: “Kiss, Tickle and Hug 3 times.” Caleb: “5 times.” Me: ”3 times.” Caleb: ”4 times.” Me: ”OK, 4 times.” He thinks he won ;). Claire and I came out at 1:00 pm. She doesn’t seem too tired yet. She gets recharged after a nursing session for a bit. She sat on my lap while I went on the computer for a few minutes and ate some chocolate chips.
1:26 pm- Claire was getting tired. I put her in her Baby Merlin’s Magic Sleepsuit (don’t laugh…it works like a charm!) I don’t remember if I rocked her or if she fell asleep on her own. Either way, she fell asleep by 1:55.
2:00 pm- I put a load of laundry in the wash, did dishes, and prepped roasted cabbage, eggplant, and my Old Fashioned chop suey with the meat I cut up in the morning for dinner.
3:00 pm- The kids both woke up at the same time. I was going to get Claire first because Caleb had just woken up. He likes to lounge on his bed for a bit. When I walked past his room, he was wailing. So I went to see what was the matter. He said he has an owie in his diaper area. I had been asking him if it hurt for days and he’s been saying “No!” I called the pediatrician’s office and got him an appointment for 4:00 pm. By 3:20, I was finally able to get Claire. I nursed her for 10 minutes only, changed her diaper and we were out the door. We got there just in time.
4:30 pm- We were done seeing the doctor. I nursed Claire for 10 minutes before we left. We got home by around 5pm. The hubby was not home yet. He was having one of those days at work too. I turned on the oven to roast the veggies and worked on cooking dinner. Claire was asleep in her carseat so that helped. Caleb was ranting about wanting food. I gave him some homemade yogurt and granola with a strawberry to tie him over. Dinner was almost done when Claire woke up crying. I held her with my left arm while I finished up the sauce with my right. And thank goodness, the hubby came home at that time. He still had his lunch in his hand. He didn’t even get a chance to eat it at work.
5:40 pm – I change Claire’s diaper and we finally sit down to dinner. And for hubby, lunch and dinner.
6:24 pm – I nurse Claire. She finishes at 7:06. I give her a bath while the hubby bathes Caleb. By 8:00 pm, we’re finally ready to get Caleb to bed. He only wants Mama for that. We do the same sleep routine of 2 books, talk about shapes and colors, then kiss/tickle/hug 4 times.
8:20 pm- I took the meat I had cut up in the morning and put it through the meat grinder for ground pork for a later meal. I have tacos and potstickers in mind.
8:45 pm- The hubby puts Claire down to sleep. She woke up by 9:15. I nursed her again until 9:57. I showered. Claire had woken up while I was in the shower so hubby was rocking her.
10:31 pm-Claire nursed until 11:05. And I finally went to bed exhausted. The hubby was already asleep.
Yep, I eat bon bons all day long.